I have a book in the back of the cupboard, and it is about creative writing. So flicking through it and found an exercise at the back. There are 150 questions, topics, words to choose from and then you are supposed to write non stop for 20 minutes about the one that you have chosen. You are supposed to pick a number not a question. This makes it harder.

So I picked number 72. My children/friends/family will remember me for............

The first thing that comes to mind of course you want them to remember you as a happy, gorgeous kind, generous mother, friend, sister and daughter.

Ha, what if they remember only the bad stuff, how impatient I can be after a night shift at work with no sleep the next day cause I need to be there for my kids. What if my kids say I remember when she used to make us get our own morning tea for school. (this is so kids can make good food choices.) Or what if they remember me making them go to bed early on a school night because we are all tied and cranky and it is for our sanity. Instead of letting them stay up and watch TV.

I want especially my children to remember that everything that I did/ do for them whether they like it or not is for there own, growth, independence and so that they are prepared to face any situation with courage and belief in themselves. This is why I have chosen Montessori Education for my kids and why I try and be a good Montessori mum.

Well my friends and family will probably remember me for, endless cups of tea, coffee and the occasional wine. Always up for a chat, the support that I always try to show, even if I don’t agree, they will probably remember me for the gorgeous things that I love, getting my hair done, gorgeous jewellery, alternative medicine, always seeking out fresh, healthy food choices. Text messages just to say hi. Some of my closer friends and family will probably remember me for the emotional, spiritual, mental and physical journey that I have been on and that they have shared. Some friends will remember working with me on night duty and how I crave chocolate, get opinionated at about 2.00am and how I hit a brick wall of tiredness at 5.30am .

My family will also remember some of the great Christmases and parties that we held out our house, cause we had more room. I would love for them to remember the Christmas of 2009. We had everyone here, lots of kids, great presents, fabulous food, shots of tequila, laughs that were endless.

Yep that is how I wouldn’t mind being remembered.